Just try.

I hate it when people don’t reply to my emails or return my phone calls. Those who know me will know that I’m very lazy when it comes to doing either of those things. Thus when I actually go through the trouble to do so only to find my efforts wasted, I am disappointed, annoyed, and after a few times, I stop trying.

In this day and age, when we get updates on people’s lives from Facebook walls and the easiest way to find a person is on gchat, even getting an email from someone (that’s about something other than planning an event or paypal instructions) has become a rare surprise. With everyone’s busy schedules and time zone differences, a nice long phone conversation requires coordination and planning. As someone who has fully embraced social media and has probably tried every single network at some point in time, I really miss the good old days when we called people to say happy birthday, not leave a message on their wall.

The more friends I have on Facebook, the less I share about my life. I post funny videos, inspirational articles, and pictures of food, as if I have nothing worthy to say myself, but I do. It’s just that, we are all a little afraid of sharing too much of who we really are, for fear that our naivete and vulnerability will be used as weapons of ridicule. Not everyone will agree, and not everyone will understand, and perhaps that’s why we are so desperate to find a companion, someone who may not always agree, but will at least try to understand our silly thoughts and ambitions, and hopefully will still love us in spite of them.

It’s hard to tell sometimes, whether a person’s busy, in trouble, or just don’t care enough to reply. But when you have time to update your facebook status and comment on silly pictures, and won’t take the two seconds to hit reply to a personally addressed email, I tend to think you just don’t care enough. Every relationship requires effort from both sides, and unfortunately most of the time one side will try harder than the other. And it’s sad, when you come to a point where you think your efforts are wasted. But it’s good, because you can now put that effort towards someone who will perhaps try just a bit harder.